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Want to know how to enjoy life more? Some people believe that to enjoy life, they need to do things like:. However, plenty of people have these things and more and are still unhappy.
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Here it is. The list to end all lists. Calm down. I am definitely not saying you have to add fifty-two things to your daily routine. Who wants more work? Not us, My friend. Not us.
This is not about more work. A key to being happier in life is to make the decision to assume that the people around you have good intentions, they are operating to the best of their ability, and they mean you no harm.
When you decide to err on the side of assuming others have good motives, you protect yourself from living with a negative mindset. We use language and phrases about ourselves that would be completely unacceptable for us to say to anyone else. Make a rule, starting today that you will talk to and about yourself the same way you would talk to and about your dearest friend.
Doing this is one of the most important key ways to be happy every day. What many of us already know by experience has been proven by research. People of faith are much happier and find more sustained happiness in life. Start dedicating a little more time for prayer today!
1. be present
When we intentionally choose to spend time with those who are supportive, positive, and encouraging, we acquire a positive mindset and are happier. When we find ourselves surrounded by people who are negative, critical, and hurtful, it steals our happiness and our joy. Allow yourself to be the person you were created to be, and surround yourself with those who love you for who you really are.
From the time you take your first wobbly steps as a toddler, and all the way to adulthood, you will fail as a natural part of learning. Learning to see your failures as steps along the path to success will change how you view your failures and how you live your life.
I believe God plants dreams in us just like he gives us certain talents and gifts. Write out exactly what your vision is, and find people who can help you achieve it. I started thinking about getting healthier, and pretty soon I was planning how to grow my own non-GMO wheat in the backyard and bake my own bread.
I had to reel myself back in and focus on one actual change! Instead of drinking a Diet Dr. Baby-steps without the backyard wheat plans! Some people are emotional black holes. They often start out very charming when you first meet, but over time you realize your interactions with this person are negative and more harmful than beneficial.
Research shows that the quality of our relationships is the most ificant factor in our overall happiness during our lifetime. Taking time to celebrate our progress, even if we are celebrating baby steps, keeps us feeling accomplished and not overwhelmed.
Get up. The research shows that just a few minutes out in nature boosts your mood, increases happiness, and reduces stress. I always feel so uplifted when I hear people complain? It has a negative effect on you and everyone else who is listening including the complainer.
On any given day, there are a gazillion things I could worry about. Identifying real concerns not perceived ones and then releasing what is out of my control, keeps me from being overcome by fear. Always believing others are at fault for the negative things that happen in your life can become a habit. Have you ever just made the decision to be happier? You can tell yourself you are going to learn how to ice skate. You can read all the books, watch all the videos, even buy yourself a fancy pair of skates. You have to take actions that will actually make you happier.
When we carry around hurt and anger, it festers and grows into a spirit of bitterness and offense. When our hearts become bitter and offended we live life wounded and see every interaction through the lens of that pain. Forgiveness is a gift to yourself, not a release of guilt to the offender.
2. let yourself be happy
It sets you free from the weight of carrying around all that hurt and anger. This concept is applicable to so many things in life, but specifically for this example, I want to focus on relationships. Study after study has shown that the biggest predictor of happiness in our lives is the quality of our relationships. What you nourish will flourish. The imposter syndrome is a common and well-documented phenomenon. My whole life and business changed when I decided to get serious about spending my time and my money to get the skills and wisdom I needed to move forward with my dreams for my business.
What dreams do you have that you could take steps this week to achieve? It is so important to focus on what you can learn from others instead of assuming that you know everything. When you learn something new, it makes you feel accomplished and successful. Leaders are learners. I see this all the time with people who dream of starting their own business, writing a book, or launching a ministry or nonprofit.
This one is relatively self-explanatory. Get some rest people! Allowing yourself to rest reduces anxiety, increases happiness, and protects your body from illness. Nothing stresses me out more and steals my joy more than being overwhelmed and worrying I will forget something. I wrote a whole article about it here. This is as important in your personal life as it is in business. Saying no was the best choice for my own personal happiness. Ever met someone who tells you often how much they hate drama, yet they always seem to be in the middle of it?
Some people just simply thrive on drama while never realizing they are the cause of it. There are two common types of mindsets: fixed meaning you believe that your intelligence and abilities are set and unchanging and growth meaning you believe these things can and will grow.
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When you have a growth mindset you believe that you can change, grow, learn and develop into the person you have been created to be. The way you think about yourself will help you grow or stay stuck. I promise. Challenge yourself to give up hating on your appearance for one week and see how life changing it is! But when we subconsciously compare our real-life to the perfectly planned, propped, and prepared images on Pinterest, it can steal our happiness.
Remember real life is awesome. This one is easier said than done. I shared in Breaking Busy that even Jesus disappointed other people. Disappointing others is just a fact of life. Accepting that we are going to both disappoint others and be disappointed by others reduces our unrealistic expectations, ultimately making us happier people.
I love to sing, to worship, to snuggle with my family, and I love a big cup of hot tea and a great book.
1. focus on yourself
Finding win-win solutions in every relationship will strengthen and protect your friendships and your family relationships. Learning to compromise and truly working to reach the best possible decision for everyone involved leaves everyone feeling happier and less stressed.
Life is too short to do things you hate mostly. There are so many ways to automate the little things in life that seem to suck the life out of you. For me, online bill paying, shopping for almost everything via Amazon Prime, and online grocery shopping are some of the best inventions of the 21st century.
Find the three people who have earned your trust and whose own lives bear good fruit, then let those people become your trusted advisors. Plans change, cars break down, movies sell out, flights get canceled. In fact, the only thing predictable about life is that it is unpredictable.
Learning to go with the flow will go a long way in reducing your stress level. You know your life better than anyone else. You know what you can handle, what you have time for, and what types of things push your buttons.
Setting your boundaries allows you to be in control of what you say yes to. I defend my boundaries with humor and humility most days, and in doing so, I feel stronger and happier. When I turned 30, I realized that I could keep staying up until a.